Coming to terms with your addiction can be a difficult and painful process. By the time you have come to terms with it, your family and friends have likely already recognized it and developed strong feelings about it, as well. When you are finally ready to admit your addiction and to seek help, it’s important that you talk to your loved ones honestly about your addiction and what you plan to do about it.
Because addiction is such an emotionally charged topic, you may feel apprehensive about having this discussion. But before you begin your addiction treatment program in Gilbert, you should have this conversation – if not for the support you’ll need, then at least to let your loved ones know what you intend to do.
Here are some steps you should take when discussing your addiction with loved ones:
It can be very easy to lose your train of thought or to become flustered when you are having a hard conversation with someone – even someone you love. You should make a plan for what you want to say to each person or to the group before you ask people to meet with you. Knowing what you want to say will make you feel somewhat more confident, and it will help you to keep the conversation on track so that you can all stay focused.
You may have a lot you want to say to your loved ones, but they have a lot they want to say, too. Don’t plan to present a monologue and then walk away. Ensure that you give them opportunities to respond to what you tell them, either throughout the conversation or at the end. Listen carefully to what they tell you, and respond thoughtfully.
Not everyone is going to feel the same way about your addiction. Some may feel angry or hurt by your actions, and they may take this opportunity to tell you about them. Those who were using with you may feel betrayed that you have decided to get sober, or they may mock your decision. You need to be prepared for all the possibilities so that you can better protect yourself against these reactions. After your loved ones have time to process what you have told them, they are likely to be more understanding and supporting. Prepare yourself for this.
Even if someone starts yelling at you about how you’ve hurt them or tells you that you’re not going to change, don’t feel tempted to engage in an argument. Just acknowledge their feelings and move on. Say that you’re sorry, and affirm your commitment to getting help. Don’t blame others for your actions, or you will make them feel defensive and encourage arguing. You can save this kind of sharing for when you are in addiction therapy and are working under the guidance of a counselor.
Your loved ones don’t just want to know that you have finally admitted that you have a problem – they want to know what you plan to do about it. Show them that you are serious about your recovery by telling them your next steps, including going to an addiction clinic, getting addiction counseling, or participating in family addiction therapy. The more specific you are, the more they will trust that you are serious about getting help, and the more supportive they should be.
You will need the support and help of your loved ones as you go through the difficult process of recovery – and you’ll need it to stay on the road to health. Let your loved ones know that you will need them so that they can feel more engaged in your recovery process. Showing them that vulnerability and asking for their help will also soften their view if they have been hurt and are angry.
Talking to anyone about your addiction can be difficult, but especially with your loved ones. Following these steps can make the conversation somewhat easier, allowing you to have a smoother start to your addiction therapy.
If you are struggling with addiction, call Corebella Health and Wellness Clinic in Arizona. We treat patients in Glendale and Tempe through addiction counseling, addiction therapy, and more. We offer medication therapy and have a suboxone doctor on staff. We are also a wellness clinic, and we offer a variety of therapeutic services to help you live a healthier lifestyle. Contact us today to learn more.
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