Learning that one of your parents has an addiction can be devastating. Your parents are the people who are supposed to be strong and have it all figured out – to take care of you. It’s hard to see them as vulnerable and fallible people. It’s also hard to see them struggling and suffering and not be able to do something to help.
The best thing for your parents is to get professional addiction treatment, either through a Chandler addiction clinic or a counselor. However, there are a few things you can do to help support your parents and yourself while they are getting the treatment they need.
You will likely struggle with a lot of big feelings while you watch your parents struggle with their addiction. But you won’t be able to talk about all those issues with your parents. Either they might be in an in-patient addiction treatment program, where you can’t contact them, or it may just not be the right time to talk about what’s on your mind when they are in the early stages of treatment and are dealing with so much.
You need to talk to a trusted adult to work through your feelings and get the support you need. Then you can be fully present for your parents when they need you. It’s best to get your own Gilbert addiction counseling, either by attending a support group for the loved ones of addicts or talking to a therapist who specializes in these issues.
Addicts often struggle to set and maintain healthy boundaries. They may take advantage of the people around them, have a hard time telling people “no,” get enmeshed in co-dependent dynamics, and more. Addicts will do the same with their own children.
You can help your parents by setting your own healthy boundaries and enforcing them. Not only will you provide a model of healthy behavior for your parents, but you will also be protecting your own mental and emotional health, which will position you to be better able to support your parents. Learn how to say “no” when you need to, protect the space you need (including the space to be alone), and practice (and insist upon) appropriate communication, among other boundaries.
You can’t help others with their struggles if you are struggling yourself. You need to tend to your own self-care so that you can be there for your parents. One way you can do that is to spend time doing things that make you happy. Spend time with friends, work on hobbies (or learn a new hobby), go hiking, play volleyball in a community team – whatever you enjoy.
Doing things that make you happy will help you de-compress so that you can approach the situation with your parents with more energy and strength. You’ll be better able to support your parents, and you’ll be better able to protect your boundaries.
Supporting your parents through addiction treatment can be overwhelming. You may feel scared, insecure, and anxious. You may even feel angry at your parents for their decisions or guilty for the ways that you think you have let them down. It’s important that you get your own addiction counseling in Gilbert to work through your feelings and learn how you can best support your parents. Everyone struggling with addiction needs a good support system to help them through their treatment and to help them remain successful in recovery. With help, you can be that person for one of the people you love the most.
Corebella Health & Wellness offers addiction counseling for the whole family. We offer initial and ongoing addiction treatment for those struggling with addiction to drugs and alcohol, and we offer support groups and counseling for their friends and family. We offer complete addiction treatment services, including medication therapy through our suboxone doctor. We also offer ongoing wellness services for the creation of a healthy lifestyle long after the additional recovery period. We offer services through our clinics in Glendale and Tempe. Call Corebella Health & Wellness us today to learn more about our drug treatment center, addiction therapy, and support for friends and family.